What 2020 has taught me
What 2020 has taught me so far? Let me start by saying that I pray that you and your loved ones are safe and sound wherever you are. In spite of all the uncertainty for the future, we are hopeful that God will see us through. Like many people, our family has suffered losses throughout this pandemic. As if that wasn’t painful enough, not being able to get together and properly say our goodbyes and pay respect was truly excruciating and heartbreaking. For a few months I dreaded phone calls for fear of hearing bad news. I even stopped watching the news on a daily basis in order to be in a good place mentally for my family. Instead of watching the news, I would check online to see what was going on in my area and in the world every couple of days. That was it!
Despite all that, sometimes the news comes to you whether you like it or not. George Floyd. This one was a punch in the gut. It hit me hard. There are images that you cannot un-see. I couldn’t watch the whole video; it was too much. The few minutes that I watched have marked me profoundly. You get all sort of emotions while trying to process everything that is going on in your city, country and the world. For sure, 2020 made itself known. It made us stare in the mirror and act on what we believe. Racism, health, our values, our beliefs, we have to choose what we believe and act accordingly. Whatever anchored our being was revealed. Imagine, the entire world affected by the same thing at the same time. I have made a point to really take the time to reflect and not miss what this year is teaching me.
Lesson #1 Be intentional with your time.
I don’t know about you but sometimes it feels like there isn’t enough time in the day. You make excuses and believe it is because you don’t have time, but you realize that this is just an excuse. If you really want to do something, you will make it a priority and find the time for it. It has been good to spend uninterrupted time together as a family. We got to reconnect as a whole and really see our kids’ personalities blossom in front of our eyes. Priceless.
I would find myself getting very busy with projects, but I had to remind myself that family time is the most important thing. As a parent, you learn so much about your children and about yourself through them. We enjoyed having family meals, going on walks, having great debates and more. All this not just for one day but for months. That was really refreshing.
Lesson# 2 I don’t need much to survive.
We live in such a materialistic world that it is easy to confuse a want for a need. Due to my husband’s job, we were confined earlier than everybody else in the city. I have learned that (don’t tell my husband this, LOL), in all honesty, I don’t need much to survive. It was gratifying to go for weeks without buying anything. I realized that there is a lot of “stuff” that we buy that just ends up being clutter, EXCEPT shoes, of course! LOL
Lesson#3 Educate your kids on colour and what it means to be human.
I feel like this one was forced on us by 2020. My kids are young so I have always thought that I would have more in-depth conversations about race much later in life. You hear about kids asking very tough questions on race and it doesn’t really register until “YOUR” kids ask you those questions. I loathe that there is even a discussion about it. Questions such as: “Maman, why do they call me black while I am brown?” “Why are they called white while they aren’t even white but pink?” “Why were people put aside because of the skin color?” “Why are Adam and Eve white in the books?” ”Were they really white?” I look at those precious innocent souls and realize that in those moments my answers will shape how they see and treat people. Honestly, it can be intimating and nerve wrecking at the same time…
Lesson#4 I need to know more about my immune system
This virus made me educate myself even more on immune system, on how our bodies work, natural remedies and so on… It has been fascinating to learn about how our body regenerates cells… pretty amazing. I got tips on what to do on a daily basis to keep my immune system strong. I have realized that the more I know about the human body the more empowered I feel. Knowledge is key indeed. Here is a great article that talks about it. [https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/how-to-boost-your-immune-system]
Lesson#5. It is impossible to get bored.
There is so much you can learn, teach, share. I got the chance to learn so many things that I have an interest for and it is amazing. Yes, I have four kids, I was homeschooling three classes, I had laundry to do and my men (husband and 4 sons) eat like it is a full-time job. LOL. I am sure some of you can relate to some extent. It didn’t stop me from focusing on educating myself more on blogging, cooking, etc… All I had to do was to organize myself well ahead of time. I never had the feeling of being “stuck” at home, but I really got the chance to focus on what I am currently passionate about.
Although we are still in 2020, I will cherish the lessons learned so far and, I trust that when it is all said and done, we are resilient, and we will be alright in the end. Keep at it!
Live your best life!